Raising three children alone amidst hardships, Maye Musk not only taught her children to be good people but also inspired them to live positively through her own journey of motherhood filled with courage and love.
Elon Musk – one of the most famous and richest people on the planet, does not hesitate to share that the person he admires most is his mother, Mrs. Maye Musk. In many interviews, the billionaire affirmed: His success today largely comes from the way he was raised and influenced by this special mother.
Not only Elon Musk, her other two children – Kimbal and Tosca – are also successful and wealthy individuals. From a single mother, Maye Musk has done an extraordinary thing: Raising three children who have pursued different paths and all have shined. In her autobiography “Living Risks Carefully”, she shares three key principles in her journey of motherhood that any parent can reflect on and learn from.
1. Let children follow their interests
When parents get caught up in the “must-achieve” expectation, they easily overlook the natural interests and personalities that are developing within each child. Maye Musk is acutely aware of this. She does not force her children to follow an ideal model, but rather observes, encourages, and supports each child’s individual passions.
Once, when asked how she raised such successful children, she simply replied: “I just let them follow their own interests.” That humble answer actually reflects a profound philosophy of raising children.
Elon was an avid reader from a young age. At the age of 12, he owned a computer, a rarity in 1983, and programmed a game. Maye encouraged her son to submit the game to a technology magazine. The result: Elon was paid $500 – the first money he earned for his passion.
Her second son, Kimbal, showed an early love for food and was often in the kitchen. Her youngest daughter, Tosca, was immersed in art, dance, performance, and music. Maye not only saw these seeds but also helped nurture them with her unconditional trust and support.
Today, Elon Musk is a technology “boss” with rocket and electric car projects. Kimbal is the owner of a famous restaurant chain, and Tosca is a director and producer in Hollywood. This is not only a personal success, but also a living testament to the way of raising children who respect individuality and passion.
Another time, when asked by a child, “What should I do when I grow up?”, Maye Musk gently replied:
“You don’t know where your future will take you, but you will gradually discover what you really care about. Just focus on that, and then follow it.”
2. Teach children to be responsible from an early age
Independence and responsibility are two factors that Maye Musk always values when raising children. According to her, responsibility is not a burden but an opportunity for children to develop and mature. However, many modern parents often fall into the cycle of “doing everything for their children”, thinking “children are too young to know anything”, which inadvertently creates passive children who lack life skills.
Maye Musk became a single mother at the age of 31. The financial burden forced her to work multiple jobs. This situation became a valuable opportunity for her children to learn to be independent. They took care of themselves and took the initiative to study without their mother’s supervision.
Maye’s moderate level of letting go has helped her children develop self-discipline and initiative. Not only do they take care of themselves, they are also their mother’s “little assistants” when she is busy with work.
Maye Musk agrees with the views of famous Chinese educator – Chen Heqian:
“What children can do for themselves, they should do for themselves.”
According to her, the most precious gift parents can give their children is not unconditional support, but the ability to be independent and take responsibility for their own lives.
3. Don’t make your parents sacrifice – Live your own life
In the opinion of many Asian parents, “sacrificing for children” is considered the highest expression of love. However, excessive sacrifice sometimes makes children feel pressured and guilty, especially when they see their parents give up their careers, joy, or even personal happiness for them.
Maye Musk is not that kind of mother. She sets an example for her children by living her values and always encouraging them to be positive and proactive. According to her, parents should live their own lives first. Only when you feel fulfilled can you take care of your children in a healthy way.
After the divorce, Maye continued to develop her career. She had no intention of giving up her job for the sake of her children and, more importantly, she did not feel guilty about it.
“There is no need to feel guilty. Instead of blaming the situation, teach children to look at life with a more positive attitude.”
During the difficult years, Maye was a single mother of three children, ran a nutrition consulting business from home, and worked part-time as a model. At 48, she continued her studies and earned her master’s and doctorate degrees – proving that women can do anything if they believe in themselves.
Although she once asserted that “my children are the most important part of my life,” she also understood that before becoming a good mother, she needed to be herself first. Only then could she inspire and help her children feel the true value of life.
Conclude
Maye Musk’s three parenting principles, encouraging the pursuit of passion, cultivating independence, and living one’s own life – are not only educational advice, but also a profound message about the role of parenting in the modern age. Parents do not need to be omnipotent or sacrifice everything, but just need to be companions who trust and inspire their children with their own lives.