My (43m) husband thinks it’s funny to constantly slap me (43f) in the privates all day everyday. He sneaks up behind me and will stick his finger in my ass or slap my vagina. He does this in front of the kids. Once or twice is one thing but this is at least 10 times a day. Tonight I was in the shower washing my face and he came in and slapped my privates.He knows I don’t like it. I’ve told him. I also have bad hemorrhoids after having the kids so when he sticks his finger there it hurts! He knows this.
(Sorry for the tmi but I’m pissed). After the shower tonight I slapped him in the face. Not hard but hard enough to sting. His reaction was to punch me in the stomach and tell me he wants a divorce for hurting him. He’s never done that before and in my opinion wayyyy overreacted. After 11 years of marriage that was a first and he said I’m the AH. Meanwhile I’m ready to leave and take the kids tonight.I know his reaction was not okay but was I out of line? UPDATE:
wow I am so overwhelmed with all the encouragement and kind posts. I had a few not so friendly ones and I wish you’d refrain from making me feel worse by saying hurtful stuff. Unfortunately this is true and I is don’t make it up. I do feel the need to clarify a few things since I seem to have not chosen the best wording in my hasty post yesterday.
He has not been doing this for year. This started a couple weeks ago. We both work from home and are home 24/7. No I do not walk around naked. He’s poking my butt through my clothes so not penetrating but it hurts and he knows that My children are safe as am I. I did call police last night and had him removed from the home. I’ve started to talk to a lawyer and will move things along as needed My husband did call today and I had shut my phone off for a while, hence the late update, but he of course is apologizing and doesn’t want to divorce. He offered counseling so we will look into that. I don’t know how I feel just yet about trying to make this work but we will see.Thank you all again for reaching out. I haven’t been able to reply to everyone yet but I will try.